Top Social

8/01/2010

I will love you and honor you.....


The other day I was talking to a good friend about the significance of wedding vows and how those vows make up a covenant that is not intended to be broken. I also started reflecting on the tragic reality of broken marriages in our world today and I couldn't help but think about how easy it is to forget the meaning of those sacred vows.

I was thinking especially about the last words that Johnny and I promised to each other on our wedding day. "I will love you and honor you all the days of my life." Wow! Just those words alone are packed with such meaning and significance, and suddenly you realize how much work is required to really live out those promises.

I came across these two paragraphs the other night from the book "The Love Dare - A day by day devotional for couples". It had particular meaning to me since this topic has been on my heart for several days. It's about honor.

"To honor someone means to give them respect and high esteem, to treat them as being special and of great worth. When you speak to them, you keep your language clean and understandable. You are courteous and polite. When they speak to you, you take them seriously, giving their words weight and significance. When they ask you something, accommodate them if at all possible, simply out of respect for who they are. It is a call to acknowledge the position or value of someone else.

This is especially true in marriage, where honor is not to be seen as too lofty a goal or too stuffy a concept, but rather a theme for the way you desire to treat your beloved. Always."

Can you imagine if everyday, couples treated each other with the honor that is described above. Our marriages and our families would be transformed. To continually recognize the significance of our beloved and to treat them with such respect and high esteem. To be so careful with our words and actions, and to treat our spouse as they really are, the most important person in the world, would truly be such an amazing concept.

However, it seems so easy as the years go by to fall into the rut of treating our spouses with less and less honor and respect. When we are first married it's so easy, but once the honeymoon is over and the reality of life sets in our attitudes towards each other can change without us even realizing it. Our spouses sometimes begin to be the ones who bear the brunt of life's struggles and so often our negative emotions. We begin to take our spouses for granted instead of lifting and holding them up as we should.

As I was reflecting on these things, I started to reminisce about our own wedding day. It was so incredible - Truly the best day of my life and the beginning of a life together that has been so undeniably blessed. I am so thankful to be married to a man who strives to live out his vows and who shows me honor in so many ways.

This day, I want to make a new promise. To continually remember the vows we made 7 years ago and to never cease working harder and harder to fullfill them. Marriage takes work. When the honeymoon is over and life really sets in, sacrifice is at the forefront of every successful marriage.

When we stood up in church before God and all of our family and friends, we made a covenant with these words. They are not empty words or old fashioned phrases. They are words that we are required to strive to live up to. They aren't meant to be easy, for we know that truly loving someone is never easy (all you have to do is look to a crucifix to see that). Our vows are meant to remind us of the incredible dignity and beauty of marriage and the reality of a couples commitment to each other.

"I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life."

Lorissa


I started to look back the other night at our wedding pictures (it's good to do that from time to time). Here is a video that I put together, mostly to remind Johnny and I of the incredible fruits and blessings of the promises that we made on May 3rd, 2003. I love you, sweetheart.


Be First to Post Comment !
Post a Comment